Sometimes my kids drive me so crazy, I actually feel like a bonafide lunatic. That’s the reality of having 2 small and 1 medium boys (they have recategorized themselves). There are a lot of ‘I would never’s’ that I’ve had to eat in the past seven years. It is so easy to be a good parent when you don’t have any children. I was such a good parent 8 years ago.
Then my kids were born.
Here’s my current ‘eaten’ list.
1. I will never allow my kids to snack while I am cooking them dinner. (Sometimes feeding them just makes them quiet enough for me to finish my thoughts.)
2. I will never allow my kids to use an electronic device during a service. (I made it all the way to Michael’s graduation last week on this one. But I hastily threw their iPods at them so I could actually soak in the moment! And I confess, it was Angry Birds. Is it really any different than playing tic tac toe??? Is it?)
3. I will never snap at my children. (I have learned the value of asking for forgiveness from my kids. Sometimes, they even use my techniques on me when I am about to snap. Because they have used the freezer handle as a gymnastics bar for the 387th time or tracked leaves and snail slime on a freshly mopped floor (this is only a big deal because I mop soooooo rarely….) ‘Mom, are you frustrated? Mom, why don’t you take a deep breath? Mom, maybe you need some rest.’)
4. I will never forget anything really important regarding my children. (see here)
5. I will never let my kids run inside. (That is dumb. I gave it up as soon as they could run.)
I use the phrase ‘I never’ a lot less now. I use the phrase, ‘I hope’ frequently. The next time you see a mom doing something that you would ‘never’ do, give her a break. She probably would never do it either. It’s just that she’s really tired, she’s had a really long day, and probably needs to pee. Instead, pray for her. Or walk beside her. Or watch her kids while she goes to the bathroom.
You never know when you might need the very same support.